Although Father’s Day is different this year due to Covid-19 most fathers would have had a good day. Matt Dawkin from The Retreat explains how, unfortunately, this is not the case for everyone:


How is Father’s Day different for some people?


If you have lost your father


I have a number of friends who has lost their father’s and for some people it might be the first Father’s Day without them. This can be a tough time as some people might not have had the chance to tell there father’s how much they meant to them or they were the person they always turned to in times of support

If you have lost your child


For those who have lost a child a day devoted to Father’s can magnify the loss

If you don’t remember or know your father


For some people they have no memory of a father figure or someone to call dad and this can be incredibly difficult.

If you are a father for the first time


This experience can be incredibly exciting but just as terrifying for men as it is women.

Childbirth


Emotions and experiences can vary dramatically during childbirth and some fathers report euphoria while others report fear and agony.

Baby blues


Lots of woman feel down, sad, tearful or anxious the first week after giving birth and this is common and often referred to as baby blues 30%-80% in woman


Postnatal depression


However, if these symptoms persist or start later then this could be a sign of postanal depression (9%-21%);

Lack of motivation, energy, interest in things, bonding with baby.

(shine spot light on men too) Similar to mothers most fathers have “daddy blues” and experience similar feelings to woman and go within a week. In men this is referred to as paternal postnatal depression (PPND) and estimates suggest around 25% of men suffer from the associated symptoms but only around 10% of cases are recorded

Top tips


Mental readiness – take time to reflect on how life is going to change; can’t just go to the pub (this is where I see men in late 20’s early 30’s with low mood as life has changed)
Understanding pregnancy and childbirth – so you know what to expect
Attend appointments together
Go out with mates
Go on trips with family (camping ect)
Ask for support if struggling