Psychosexual Therapy

People of all ages and stages of life can have difficulties with their sex life, which can have  knock-on effects for other feelings. This can put a strain on your relationship with your partner and affect your overall mental wellbeing. We provide a bespoke therapeutic package based on the needs of the individual/couple.



Psychosexual Therapy focuses on resolving problems within a sexual relationship. We know that 1 in 10 couples have sexual concerns, to varying degrees of severity, and psychosexual therapy can offer support and suggestions that can improve levels of intimacy. 

What is Psychosexual Therapy?


Are you having problems with sex? If so, then the first thing you need to know is that you are not alone.

If you are struggling with performance or intimacy problems, or have anxieties based on previously traumatic experiences or even changes in your desires caused by pregnancy, stress, depression or addiction there are many common reasons that you could be experiencing sexual dysfunction, and there are also many different solutions.

In fact, did you know that most sexual problems are not physically based? This is why psychosexual therapy offered here at The Retreat can be  effective in tackling sexual issues.

Difficult as it may seem to talk about sex and psychosexual problems, the sooner you can open up and address the underlying issues the better it will be for your own peace of mind, and the faster you will be able to resolve any impacts this is having on your intimate relationships.

Sex therapy can help adults of all ages, and we work in an inclusive way for all individuals or couples, irrespective of ethnic origin, gender, age, sexual orientation, living arrangements and disability.

The Process. 

If you are contacting us as a couple we require a separate referral form from each of you. You will then be seen for a joint, 60 minute initial appointment with the therapist. A history taking session then follows and this is carried out individually and takes 90 minutes for each of you.

Once both history taking sessions have been completed the therapist will review the information and invite you to a joint 60 minute session where you discuss the to discuss the outcomes of the history-taking and plan the therapy with you.

The regular 60 minute sessions that follow will involve the setting of specific exercises to be carried out between sessions, and feedback time to review how the exercises went. Over time the exercises change and so too will the levels of intimacy you achieve. A final follow-up session is booked three months after the cessation of the regular sessions.

Confidentiality is agreed with each partner within the couple relationship and the therapist will support each partner to be transparent with the other. It is also possible, however, that the therapist will hold confidential certain aspects of an individual’s history that they do not wish to disclose to their partner. You can discuss any confidentiality concerns with the therapist during the one-to-one history taking session.


What We Offer

Linda Bower is a highly experienced psychotherapist and is training in the area of Psychosexual Therapy and can now offer support for a wide range of problems, including but not limited to:

    • Sexual pain
    • Erectile or ejaculatory problems
    • Loss of interest in sex
    • Psychosexual needs during the menopause
    • Sexual identity issues
    • Exploration opportunities to identify the impact of historical experiences and relationships on sexual functioning
    • Practical exercises for you to carry out in the privacy of your own home
    • Focus on identifying you and your partner’s sexual needs
    • Learning to communication your sexual needs
    • Rediscovering the intimacy in your relationship through development of new insights

    Linda will help you examine the thoughts, feelings and behaviours that are contributing to your sexual difficulties, and draw up realistic and achievable goals for you.



     “If you require any of our information in your spoken language please telephone 01904 412 551 or email and this can be arranged”

    How To Access The Service

    All therapies are accessed via our Initial Therapies Assessment. 

    To refer yourself to our general therapies service, or just to talk to us about whether we can help, please call us on 01904 412551.


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    Why choose The Retreat?







    Helping People Get Their Lives Back On Track

    Couple therapy is an investment – of time and money. It takes commitment of energy and emotion.  Making the decision together, to seek help from a trained professional, is often an important first step towards reconnecting with your partner and being able to set some agreed goals again for the future.

    What is Online/Video Therapy?

    Our online therapy service allows us to offer help and support to people not able to access our York-based service face-to-face. Online therapy is a developing area for counselling and psychotherapy, and is also known as webcam counselling, e-therapy, web therapy, internet therapy and distance therapy. This service allows you all the benefits of face-to-face sessions with a therapist, via your personal computer and from the comfort of your home. 

    Our skilled counsellors, psychologists and therapists will listen to you in a non-judgmental way in a private, confidential setting. They can help you with your current difficulties, past experiences or anxieties about your future with the aim of helping you improve the quality of your life and relationships.

    What is Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder?

    Any one of us can experience something that we find traumatic. This could be something recent that has happened to us or it could be from our earlier years. Either way, around 30% of people who experience something traumatic go on to develop symptoms of Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD). Traumatic events can vary widely, from road traffic or other accidents, involvement in military combat, near death experiences, or some form of abuse as a child or adult.

    PTSD is a name given to a range of symptoms that someone may experience. Often, when we experience a situation that is traumatic, we may at first feel quite numb, but later experience symptoms such as:

    • Nightmares or frightening thoughts
    • Re-living the traumatic event, often termed ‘flashbacks’
    • Avoidance of reminders of the event and of talking about it
    • Irritability or outbursts of anger
    • Hyper vigilance and alertness to possible danger
    • Problems with concentration and memory.

    These are all symptoms of PTSD and are usually very distressing to us.

    What is Autism?

    Autism is a lifelong developmental disability that affects how a person communicates with and relates to other people, and how they experience the world around them.

    It is a spectrum condition, which means that, while all people with autism share certain difficulties, their condition will affect them in different ways.

    Some people with autism can live relatively independent lives, but others may have accompanying learning disabilities and need a lifetime of specialist support.

    What is Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD)?

    Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) is a group of behavioural symptoms that include:

    • Inattentiveness – most people with ADHD will have a short attention span and may be easily distracted.
    • Hyperactivity – there is likely to be some restlessness, fidgeting or overactivity. This can also lead to difficulties in sleeping and increased anxiety.
    • Impulsiveness – people with ADHD may do things without thought for the consequences, without very much reflection and without having a plan.

    Some adults will have ADHD without it being diagnosed at a younger age. Those who are diagnosed at a young age are likely to continue to experience problems, though the symptoms might reduce.

    What therapies do you offer?

    We offer a range of individual and group therapies in line with NICE (National Institute for Health and Care Excellence) guidance. All of our therapists are highly trained, experienced and committed to continued professional development. Many therapists have training in more than one therapy modality, and are therefore in the best position to offer tailored, individualised therapy to meet your needs, drawing from the most up to date, evidence-based interventions.

    Our therapies are usually delivered face to face, in relaxing therapy rooms. However if you are unable to come to The Retreat for your appointments, whatever the reason, we may be able to offer you an appointment via video link, using a secure platform called VSEE. 

    How do I access the service?

    All therapies are accessed via our Initial Therapies Assessment. 

    To refer yourself to our general therapies service, or just to talk to us about whether we can help, please call us on 01904 412551.

    Is the service confidential?

    All our services are confidential, and our therapists and clinicians follow professional codes of conduct which include principles around confidentiality. This means we will not disclose information about you to a third party without your consent, unless we had significant concern for either your safety or the safety of someone else. We would make every attempt to discuss this with you if the situation arose.

    Can I get involved in The Retreat?

    We welcome representation from people who have finished their therapy or support within our services. There are a number of ways you can get involved, from joining us at information sharing events, helping us raise the profile of our services through the media, or consulting with us to help develop new service or recruit new staff. Please contact us for more information. 

    Get in Touch. Talk to us.

    If you need to speak to us, we are here to help. Our team of qualified therapists are at your service in person, or via a video call.

    Heslington Rd, York, YO10 5BN

    Call Us: 01904 412 551